Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Be Fake or Not to Be Fake, That is the Question.
So I have always been a very expressive person and I usually wear my feelings on my sleeve. While this can be good at times it can also be not so good. The good thing is . . . . you always know where you stand with me. I had a friend say to one of my other friends one day "I think Erin's mad at me." The other friend said "What makes you say that?" The person then started listing some things . . . . and the friend replied back, "Well honestly, if you think Erin's mad at you . . . she probably is." The bad thing is that it can get me in trouble sometimes. It makes me a little more vulnerable to get hurt by people. It also can sometimes offend people. So I went to institute tonight and a topic was brought up that is there any sin that isn't selfish. While we all know the answer is no there isn't. Someone brought up White Lies. We've all done it. We've told a little White Lie because we didn't want to hurt anybody's feelings. With that in mind I'll bring you up to speed. After institute I went to grab something to eat with my roommate and two other people we know. Mind you I was a little tired so my patience wasn't the best. But the other two people that joined us were being rather obnoxious. Me being the person I am it wasn't hard to notice that I was getting irritated and annoyed. My roommate having already lived with me sometime could read my mood and just politely said she's a little tired. After we got home we talked about it and she said to me "Maybe we should teach you how to be more fake" I told her that I dislike fake people a lot. But then that comes back to the White Lie thing . . . is it bad to tell a White Lie? Is it bad to be completely fake with a person that you don't really like or that you are bothered by. Or should you be honest with people?? While I don't think it is smart to go around and tell people you don't like them and I don't think I handled tonight very well at all. But at the same time . . . I don't think you should pretend to like people when you don't. You know what I mean?? I don't know . . . . it definitely gives me some food for thought.
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While I don't think you need to pretend to like someone you don't (you just make internal rules for yourself..."Do not hang out with these people again")I think we could all learn to hide our "dislike of them a little better and be better at tempering our feelings. I honestly don't see that as being fake or lying, just being better versions of ourselves...and then to help us in the future learn what we do and don't handle very well so we can eliminate those situations that cause us so much angst.
It's called being polite, not fake or a lie, just polite, like your friend politely excused you from the situation you both didn't want to be in. Perfectly acceptable and more Christlike and mature than being rude and saying you guys are obnoxious, I'm out of here.
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